It’s necessary we belong to something. We have to have a mission, an idea we believe in that makes us feel we are part of the bigger picture.
To feel content in lives, we need to be authentic; we need to be competent at what we do, and we need to be connected. This is called the self-determination theory.
When we feel connected, that’s when we can be vulnerable, let our defenses down with our group we belong to. When we are authentic, we feel that judgment does not exist. Our team loves us for who we are. When we are competent at what we do, we believe that we are making a difference whether it's in our attempts to change the world or to change ourselves for the better.
We need groups. We need to belong.